Wednesday, August 1, 2018

Choosing the Best Sponsor for You

Choosing the right sponsor is critical for a successful recovery and the sponsor/sponsee relationship may be among the most important relationships made in recovery. This is why you’ll want to carefully choose someone who is the best possible choice for you and your recovery goals. 

A good sponsor is someone who has worked through the 12 steps – with at least one year of sobriety – and is active in her own recovery. It’s also smart to choose someone who you’re not potentially attracted to. This well-known guideline is set in place so you don’t risk romantic involvement and can focus solely on your recovery. 

Here are a few more considerations to keep in mind when choosing a sponsor. 
  • Does she have a sponsor or other sponsees? The best kinds of sponsors are those who are working with their own sponsors. This ensures that they have experience with the sponsor/sponsee relationship and their sponsor may even serve as an additional resource in your recovery. Along the same lines, try to avoid a sponsor who is already sponsoring someone else. You want to make sure that the person isn’t stretched too thin and has time to devote to you. 
  • How will she help enhance your recovery? You’ll want to look for a person who will be a positive influence and motivate you to build a better, sober life. Consider these questions: Do you admire her recovery and new sober life? Does this person seem genuinely optimistic? Does she volunteer or have hobbies? How does she interact with others? 
  • Does she seem open and honest? To best support your recovery, a sponsor will need to be honest with you and unafraid to speak up if your actions or behaviors are risking your recovery. 
  • Do you feel comfortable around her? Putting your trust into someone you don’t know may feel strange at first, but these feelings should fade. You need to feel comfortable being around and confiding in your sponsor. And, if you don’t, it’s okay to choose a new one. Also, keep in mind that what you look for in a sponsor may be different depending on the stage of your recovery.  

About Our 12 Step Inclusive Program
At Rising Roads, our clients obtain a 12 step sponsor and actively work the program. It's our intention to show you what a sober woman is in all aspects of her life. You will be allowed passes with your sponsor and we will be encouraging you to create a strong sober community for yourself. To learn more about our women's 12 step program, call today: 866-746-1558.

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